Archive for February, 2005

Snowy Monday

Here’s something I don’t write ever. I had a very frustrating day. Minky was discontent for stretches of time, especially as it got later in the afternoon. Things that she ordinarily takes in stride, like falling down, made her cry. It was not her normal cry either. It was a halting screechy cry that was, by the end of the day, hard to take.

I’m very good at not losing my patience, though today I was driven to the breaking point several times.

After Layr got home and I had someone to tell my troubles to, I felt badly for letting the frustrations get the better of me. If it hadn’t been snowing and we could have gone out, I don’t think I would have felt the same way.

The funny thing is that by 11 tonight, which is two hours away, I will rush into her room to wake her for a little late night nursing. All will be forgotten about our difficult afternoon. She’ll rub her little minky eyes and say enthusiastically when she sees Layr, “Da-deee”. She’ll give us both kisses and attempt to blow me a kiss when Layr walks her back into her bedroom.

I love her so much.

Here are two pictures from the weekend. They kind of illustrate the highs and lows we had today.

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Happy Birthday, Layr

All of my diabolical plans came together last night! Layr had a pretty fun birthday. Here we are after eating dinner.

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The Minky Monkey Music Box

My father told me he was making something for Minky’s first birthday. He made her a gorgeous crib and a shelf with a cat and mouse on it, which we just love. Treasures she’ll have her whole life.

When Dad’s lost baggage was delivered to our house on Saturday morning, and there was no big cardboard box along with it I thought maybe he hadn’t finished the gift or didn’t bring it along.

I wasn’t really paying attention during the unwrapping of presents because I was chatting with our friends Matthew and Hariet and holding their daughter, Lucca. She is six months old.

All of sudden out of the wrapping paper came this unbelievable gift, a music box from Papa in the shape of the monkey I designed for this site. Handpainted. The handle comes out of the monkey’s mouth and he plays a song that I can’t quite place. I was floored. It’s the cute thing.

I got all teary-eyed, something our friends must have thought strange, but that’s always my reaction when my Dad makes something. I guess because there is so much love and thought put into the making of the gift and it’s not something you’ll ever find in a store. It’s a present made just for Coco or me that shows how much my Dad loves us.

Here it is.

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Happy Valentine’s Day….someone stop me

I’m on my fourth chocolate and it’s not yet 11AM. Layr, husband extraordinaire, gave me a box of my favorites this morning – Russell Stover Nut, Chewy and Crisp Centers or Noix, Caramels et Croustillants, en francais!

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Le Weekend

Well, I’ve had the kind of weekend that some people only dream of. I got my faux fils, Tristan, aka The Brawn, to help me clean out this hideous closet in my office. After we moved into this house three years ago, we shoved all sorts of boxes into the closet in desperation and ignored it until yesterday.

The three phase plan was to remove and unpack all the boxes, install shelves and then put back everything that we still wanted in an organized fashion. The plan went off without a hitch, even clean up, which is when, I find, things usually fall apart. I’ve learned that when you tell a teenager there’s a twenty in it for him, you really get results.

After phase one was complete, Layr and The Brawn went out to the driveway and cut the plywood shelves. They came out really well; they are really deep and sturdy.

By nine last night Tristan was moving all the stuff we still wanted back in and low and behold it’s like a ballroom in there, there’s that much room.

My friend Maggie will be especially pleased. She threatened to come over and do another clean sweep. She, a year ago, helped me move my office and was recently exasperated over how cluttered it’s become.

Maggie, you’re gonna love it!

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Ode to Dancing

One of my earliest memories is of listening to a Beatles song my father played on a Roberts reel to reel. I was probably four years old. My recollection is that I danced.

My father had what I considered a great stereo system. It had big speakers, a Pioneer receiver, a turntable and the reel-to-reel. Though I was forbidden to touch the reel to reel, I figured out how it worked and went ahead and used it anyway. As with much of what I did, after having been forbidden to it, my father seemed to resign himself to it and at the same time admired my moxy.

We had a tape of Stevie Wonder’s Songs in the Key of Life that even got my mother dancing. The tape had been given to us by one of my dad’s friends. In my mind’s eye, I still see the three of us, my mother, sister and I dancing in the den. That is still one of my favorite cd’s.

My mother dancing was a rare thing, which made it all the more exciting to me when she joined in. She loved to watch me dancing, though and I loved showing off for her. I remember dancing in our kitchen to Steely Dan’s Peg, much to her amusement.

My father would cut the rug on holidays if I played some Frank Sinatra. He spin me around the room, happy that I twisted his arm. I always was sorry when whatever song we were dancing to ended.

My sister is a fabulous dancer. When I was in high school, one of our afternoon pastimes was turning the stereo up LOUD and dancing in our family room. We wouldn’t dance together. As I remember it, we’d face in opposite directions, orbiting each other as we moved around the room.

We could dance for hours.

When we lived in Boston together, some years ago now, we went out one night to one of the clubs together. We were older than most everyone there. Toward the end of the night we were surrounded by college guys all holding onto their beers, swaying to the music. None of them had asked us to dance.

My husband and I took a swing dance class once, not long after we started dating. We were enthusiastic about perfecting the steps. We’d get up in the morning, put on Glenn Miller’s String of Pearls and dance naked in the dining room.

When I was pregnant I danced right through our creative department one afternoon while listening to my iPod. I felt excited and the music just carried me away. Two of my bosses, in conversation across the way, saw me but I didn’t care.

Two days after Minky was born, I laid her down on our couch after she had fallen asleep. I put my headphones on and danced with abandon to Lou Rawls You’ll Never Find. I know that I was running on only adrenaline. In the subsequent months, I’ve twirled her around plenty. I think that soon, she’ll join me.

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The Stroller Brigade

This morning….adventure….of the aquatic kind. Our playgroup trekked into the city on the subway to stare at fish. And jellyfish. Jellyfish, apparently, are hot right now. They’ve got their own wing in Boston.

We couldn’t have picked a better day. Warm and sunny. A pleasant surprise in February.

This trip, though, made me reflect on how things have changed since becoming a mother. For instance, something as easy as taking the train into the city is no longer easy. There is the reliance on mechanical devices like escalators and elevators that may or may not be working. Neither happened to be operational today at the station we got off at forcing us to get onto another train, ride one stop and walk a longer distance.

Another thing that is different is the constant low level tension I feel. I worry about Minky having a meltdown, of not having enough food for her, or her wanting to nurse at an impossible moment. Before I even leave the house I worry over whether I’ve planned for EVERY POSSIBLE contingency, like maybe some fluke of nature will make me sorry I didn’t pack a tube top for her.

Then there are the GERMS. I’ve never contemplated how germy stinky elevators or floors are this much in my life.

But I digress. The jellyfish annex that I mentioned was fantastic. Beautiful and peaceful. And of course I could appreciate them for being the blubbery little creatures they are because they were safely behind glass and not able to sting me.

Out on the mean streets again and heading back to the subway, we made quite an impression. Stroller brigades are clearly something people don’t see much in the financial district.

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A new phase…..affection

Layr got two hugs very early this morning from Minky when she came into bed with us for some nursing. It was still dark out. This is quite remarkable because she has been, to date, a somewhat unaffectionate baby – more interested in exploring the world than being cuddled. In fact, when she was very small, maybe a month old, she refused to be held horizontally because she couldn’t see what was going on.

To further illustrate my point, for months now we have witnessed her kissing pictures of cats in books, kissing toys, smacking her lips together whenever she hears the word kiss, but alas, never kisses us. Until last night when her father finally demanded a kiss and she gave him one. We cheered.

Along with the affection, new words are being learned daily. Today she added bottle to her repetoire.

And she is offically a walker. On January 13th she started to actually walk without being prodded. Now she’s pretty much strolling around everywhere. Layr plays the I’m-gonna-get-you game with her like he did when she was crawling. She speeds up a little, flaps her arms wildly and shrieks.

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First birthday party

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Hair Comparison

Pretty much everyone tells me how much Minky looks like Layr. All the children on his side of the family looked very similar as babies. It’s a running joke between us that his family’s genes choke out anyone else’s. But recently I’ve noticed at least two things that prove Coco is her mother’s daughter – her lack of hair and her language skills.

As proof that we share hereditary infantile baldness genes, here we both are on our first birthdays. No blowing drying necessary on either of these heads.

(I think we look alike in these pictures.)

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